Overwhelmed? Maybe you DON’T need to deal with it.
I came across an interesting insight the other day: the idea that not all problems need to be solved right now– or ever.
Maybe sometimes it’s okay to let some things that are confusing or ambiguous just ‘be’ so I can either work on some more important tasks or give myself more time to develop clarity on those confusing problems.
And in letting them ‘be’, I can liberate my brain from dealing with the emotional strife of not being able to get to them.
How do you know the difference?
The big ones are the things you just cannot tolerate in your life. If you simply cannot stomach another day in your soul-sucking job, if you cannot tolerate a toxic client, if you need to pay the bills.
The little things are urgent but not important. Maybe things that you feel that businesses like you do, but that don’t get you the outcome you need right now. (ehem, social media).
So much of my business journey has been learning to manage stress. And by manage, I mean let it go. Because I’ve found that it really is a choice. I am not a better business owner by being worried all the time. There’s a difference between alert, fully aware, intense even vs being stressed out.
One is positive and constructive, the other is just not helpful- or healthful for that matter.
And it IS possible. We’ve all been there when we are be-bopping along in our lives, with whatever stress we are dealing with when BAM! Some emergency happens with our family and suddenly- there is only one thing that matters. On the positive side, I remember being stressed one morning 10 years ago, my husband proposed to me that day, and WHOOSH, only one thing mattered. All the stress was gone. So much in fact, that I didn’t show up to a consultation with a potential client. Yup, I stood them up. And that just doesn’t happen in my brain.
So you know it can happen, but you can also choose to make it happen with practice. You aren’t forgetting them exactly, just healthily procrastinating on them- but also wiping out the emotional baggage they carry.
So if you are dealing with crushing overwhelm, I am giving you permission to let some things go.
- You don’t need to stay on top of your social media if there are pressing things.
- You don’t need to respond to that email NOW,
- You don’t need to go to that fourth open house this week.
- Hey, you don’t even need to grow your business if something else matters more right now.
You and your business will be just fine.
We’ve all heard that word ‘balance’. Blech.
I’ve got a growing business, a growing family, a team of employees, and some pretty ambitious goals. It’s a lot manage and balance seems like something always out of reach. The word balance makes my eyeball twitch.
To me, balance isn’t the goal, it’s meaningful progress and support to what matters to me: my family, my business, my employees, and my person creative fulfillment.
It’s not a static place to get to, it is constant adjustments in a never-ending process that lights me up and generates its own energy.
I cannot juggle, but I can throw one ball up in the air and catch it. The kind of juggle I deal with now looks like this:
- fully switching attention to one focus,
- making meaningful progress,
- transitioning to a new focus by fully mentally releasing the last focus,
- and being present on the next area of focus.
So I can switch between about 1-3 focuses a day before I need some good ole rest, but I’ve got a bag full of other things to juggle when it is their time.
And when it is time to juggle something else, I have to put the current ball away to take out a new ball. Because if I spread my focus over two things, I’LL LOSE MY BALLS!
Here’s the important part though, While focusing on one thing, I cannot let the weight of another focus leak into my current focus. That’s how overwhelm and stress creeps in.
And every now and then, lots of balls have to be out of the bag. For example if I’m on site and sh** is goin down! Moments like these I have the strength to handle it. And it doesn’t crush me. And I can wrap up a job and be excited about doing it again. Because it’s not about being stressed- I just have to focus on throwing and catching my one ball.
PS, if you were wanting to catch the webinar but didn’t get a chance- you can check it out here! In it, we will go over how we make a fast floral wedding design proposal that is super effective at landing clients. Sign up here:
Because making proposals should NOT be one of those things that stress you out.
A Letter to Spring- From A Restless Moth Fairy- Photoshoot
Dear Springtime and Sunshine,
Not sure if you know, but it’s time to wake up, shake off the rain and get to shining.
These ups and downs of weather have me feeling a little restless. If I’m not able to get outside and play in the sun soon, I may develop a hunchback from all the slouching.
My house is feeling less ‘inspiring nest’ and more ‘bat cave’ by the day. I need to get out of here. Like all the flowers, I am straining my neck toward you, I’m looking for you, and I’m tired.
Springtime? Sun? Are you guys not talking to each other? Did winter not set the clock for you?
Since I saw you last, I planted all my bulbs, read stories to all my bulbs, told them all about you, and now they are waiting for you, too. I’ve dusted my special things, I’ve made this crazy chandelier with all the gifts you gave me from last year.
I arranged flowers, I baked you treats, and still you don’t come.
I sent you an invite to my tea party, yet still you don’t come.
I just want you to know that I’m ready. Bring on the gardening, flower tending, humming under fresh leaved trees, twirling in the grass, let’s do this!
With so much love and affection,
Enjoy these goodies from our recent Moth Fairy Shoot this Spring. This is part of our new endeavor to bring you inspiring (sometimes weird) shoots paired with DIYs for some of the pieces we’ve included. Be inspired, then build your own. You like this concept? Fantastic! Sign up to be sure you get all of them in your inbox:) See the links to the specific DIYs at the bottom.
Hey, We made videos of how to make FOUR items in this photoshoot! Perhaps you’d like to see?
Thank you to all the folks who partnered with us on this shoot!
Hair and Makeup Offwhite Makeup and Beauty
Furnishings: Vintage Ambiance
Photography, Creative Direction, Set and Props, Styling, Floral: Lola Creative for Curious Lola
Gorgeous Local Flowers: Seattle Wholesale Growers Market
Make a Floral Centerpiece with a Vine Foliage Cage
Spring is just around the corner and seriously, who doesn’t love having some flowers to brighten up the house? Learn this quick and eco-friendly way to create a beautiful floral arrangement with a vine foliage cage. You know we don’t use flower foam so it’s our go-to, tried and true way of keeping stems in place. Reference our video version of this tutorial if you’re wanting some more tips on creating this!
If this is your first time making a centerpiece, fear not! We have another video that covers our common-sense method on flower placement. It’s right here: centerpiece demonstration It goes a bit more in depth.
- floral tape
- chicken wire
- bind wire, cut into 1″ pieces
- floral clippers
- wire cutters
- flowers, of course! We go to our local wholesale floral market, but you can find some goodies at your local store or garden.
First, use your wire cutters to snip a piece of chicken wire from the roll. For this size of pot, I cut a piece about 6 inches wide. Bend the chicken wire into a ball shape and tie the ends around one another to secure it. Then, place it in your vase.
Tear off strips of floral tape and place them like a grid over your ball. This will ensure the chicken wire won’t fall out. Once it feels sturdy, add the water.
Once you have a few stems in the base, choose two vines and attach them with a piece of bind wire in a place they might naturally grow together. Continue to add in vines and sprigs of Jasmine until your foliage cage feels full and strong.
Just let it get wild…
Now it’s just about full enough to support some flowers. Add in them flowers!
Taa-daa! You have made a glorious, foam-free floral arrangement! Snap a picture and show off, be sure to tag us so we can enjoy your work too!
We’ll be featuring this arrangement and others in a moody photoshoot we did about a Subterranean Moth-Fairy who is waiting in her underground den for spring to come. Oh and she’s a hoarder… Ha! To hear more about our hoarder fairy and the next DIYs from that shoot. You’ll want to SUBSCRIBE!
Here’s a sneak peak:)
Ugh. I just love those moody blooms.
Quick Floral Demo!
Feeling rushed this week? Me too. So instead of blathering on, here’s a super fast floral demo utilizing the techniques we teach in our recent Premium Skillshare Class.
Floral Eye Candy by Lola Creative- Spring Flower Recipe
Mmmkay. Local and West coast flowers right now have me smacking my chops. Sometimes you don’t have much to say, don’t have an event, just want to get your hands into some of those scrumptious blooms. So, without a whole lot from me, here’s some floral eye candy made with 100% local flowers all grown on the glorious, tide-licked, west side of the country. This spring flower arrangement recipe below.
5 Sahara Rose (grown in CA)
6 ‘Belle Epoque’ Tulips (grown in WA)
5 stems double Waxflower (grown in CA)
7 Lilacs (grown in WA)
10 stems Heuchera ‘Creme Brulee’ (grown uh… outside my door)
12 tendrils of Ivy (not the bad stuff. Also grown outside my door)
1 hunk of Carex grass roots bagged and staked(pulled out of my containers to make way for annual flowers)